Boyfriend or boy friend?

Have u ever been someone’s spare tyre without yourself knowing it?

For ‘spare tyre’ here, I’m referring to those kind that today may gives u hopes and hints that she is interested in u but then the next day a total 180 degree turn of attitude, that make u appear like an idiot “forming your own excessive love” or worst causing embarrassment or ruining a friendship.

It’s terribly crossed, anguished and undeserving, isn’t it?

For those of u who have good memory, u probably remember reading version of this from my old blog before… Yes, what I phrase it before… ambiguities of most girls.

Okay, ask yourself, have u ever been one of those “Mr. Nice guy” to a girl, then eventually only to hear her say to u - U’re a great friend, but not what she wants for a boyfriend. She regards u as a brother. Even though she claims she loves/likes u, it’s not the way u think it is.

*OUCH!!! F***!!! U probably think these are the most irresponsibly crabs u heard, next to “It’s not u, it’s just me.”

What exactly does she mean manz? How can she loves/likes u but not feel all that same burning desires that u do? Is there any way u can change her mind, or r u destined to be just her platonic friend?

If u are a nice guy, considerate, nice-tempered and giving, how can any girl not grab u? Don’t tell me girls are blind and always want the “bad boys” and not the nice guys? Okay dude, here’s a little truth… but one that maybe hurting – Contrary to whatever you guys may believe… Yes, girls actually DO like nice guys, what we DON”T like is spineless guys, those we regard as doormats or… spare tyres.

If u always drop whatever urgent stuff u were doing only to pick her up and chauffeur her to wherever she asks u to take her to, u’re very likely her spare tyre! If u always go places she decides to go, see the movies that she chooses to see, dine at the seafood restaurants she picks (even though u have seafood allergy problem), or even lost contact with most of your buddies because she doesn’t like them, and bow to her every eccentricity, u could risk being that… spare tyre!

And not forgetting… spare tyres are boring k!

Of course I aren’t saying that u shouldn’t treat your girlfriend nice, nor saying your nice-treatment to your girlfriend will end up putting u at risk of being that spare tyre… NO! Nonsense! Of course that’s NOT what I meant k. What I want u guys to question yourself is… are u very certain she regards you as her boyfriend or mere a boy friend? If it’s the latter, do u think she’ll have any guilt at the eventual time when it’s a must to tell u, “U’re a great friend but…”

She could be your good friend of many years, she could be the best opposite sex best friend that revealed to u most of her woes or report to u any of her relationship matters, she could even be the one who borrowed your shoulder to cry on during her heartbreaking times.

So, how should a guy ensure that he’s holding a “return ticket” and not being categorised in her “spare tyre” list?

Okay, deem I shall only discuss and reveal most girls’ thoughts on this if there are interested readers lor, no point I blab on and nobody appreciate again right? (remember jojo needs attention hoh… LOL!)

Meantime, I would sure love to hear anyone out there sharing similar experience… if any. Is there?