It's infuriating but true: we girls don't always speak what we mean.
Well, containing double meaning in our words is just so natural you see, it's not something say can change means can. It's an habit, or rather a disease, a habitual disease in us already. So, don’t expect your girl to change, she will likely end up hinting you again. Yeah, girls are just experts in playing mind games.
Too bad, these games just don’t come with instruction manuals, especially of trying to read through her queries and comments, which often turn out opposite of what she said. Rings any bell there?
Ok guys, see if some of my below tip-offs can help eradicate your undue headaches a bit.. hahaha..
WHEN TRYING TO PICK HER UP…
"I’m attached liao."
She means: I may or may not attached now, but you DON’T stand a chance.
"I don't dance lor."
She means: NOT WITH YOU lor, but I do dance with my female friends.
"I don't drink."
She means: I'll drink ONLY WHEN a guy I like offers me.
"Oops I just lost my mobile phone, I don't have any number.”
She means: I have two lines and carry a mobile phone with two SIM cards in my handbag, but you CAN’T have either number.
"I also love clubbing, where's your favourite night spots?"
She means: I want to know more about you, so tell me...
If you hear negative responses, it doesn't necessarily mean that she's not interested, could just means that she's either giving you the cold shoulder out of reflex (sometime normal mah), or she's just not interested in being picked up at that moment YET. Some of us girls need warm up time too. Don't take negativity personally; it could just mean that she's out with her friends and wants to focus just on that.
But if you do score a first date, here are some things you may hear:
FIRST DATES...
"How do I look?"
She means: Are you good with compliments?
"What was your last girlfriend like?"
She means: How do I compare to your last girlfriend?
"What do you look for in a girl?"
She means: I’m interested to carry on from here. Do I fit the mould.
"I don't drink."
She means: I don't want to lose my guard and do something stupid on the first date.
“Oh I just notice your double eyelids are so nice so charming, so wasted!”
She means: Remove that glasses, pls. Go lasik or whatever. I prefer dating guy without glasses.
AFTER THE DATE…
What does she mean when she says, "my roommate is sleeping."? Ok read on to find out...
"I don't want to ruin our friendship."
She means: I am NOT attracted to you, or I DON'T feel enough chemistry to continue date you -- but I do like you as friend.
"I'm just so busy with work right now."
She means: I am NOT interested in fitting you into my schedule.
"I love watching movies... I love playing pool... I love watching soccer."
“I think of you as a brother.”
She means: I’m NOT attracted to you.
INTO THE RELATIONSHIP…
"How do I look?"
She means: Am I as pretty as when we met?
“How do I look in this new dress?”
She means: Since I already bought this dress, say something reassuring pls... like: “You look SOooo slim/beautiful/hot/wonderful in it!
“Did you notice that sexy girl that just walked in?”
She means: You had BETTER NOT let me catch you eye-rolling infront of me!
"Isn't that girl gorgeous?"
She means: Is she prettier than me?
"Do you really want to go to that restaurant/movie/dinner party?"
She means: I really DON’T want to go.
"I feel like our relationship is stuck in a routine right now."
She means: I’m starting to feel it so boring now. Can’t you be more romantic and spontaneous, and surprise me more?
"How many kids do you want"... or... "Where would you honeymoon with your wife?"
She means: Do you see me in your future?
"A man was flirting with me all night.”
She means: Does it make you jealous?
"I'm not angry."
She means: I AM pissed.
"Nothing is wrong."
She means: Nothing is right.
“Of course you can go dear. I trust you and I don’t mind”
She means: "Only retards don’t mind lor. Not only can I NOT believe that you will behave yourself with those womanizing friends, but I abhor when you always go clubbing with them! If you really cared about me, you wouldn't even think about going without me!"
"If you weren't with me, which of my friends would you go for?"
She means: "Please tell me that you DON'T think my friend Britney is hotter than me."
"Tell me the truth: have I gained weight?"
She means: I want to hear something reassuring. Tell me I still can eat those Cadbury.
"I promise I won't be angry, just tell me the truth PLS."
She means: This promise expires at the ending of your reply. I promise I'll sure give you a hard time if it's NOT what I wanna hear. Ok you can say it now.
"My friend thought what you did was stupid."
She means: I thought what you did was damn stupid.
“That guy's hair is so cool."
She means: I DON’T like yours.
"That guy is so my type."
She means: I want you to dress like him and cut your hair like him.
“Your love handles are so cute.”
She means: Get rid of them, please.
“I like your friends, but…”
She means: I DON’T like your friends.
“You don't communicate enough.”
She means: I need you to constantly tell me how do you feel about me and our relationship.
BREAKING UP…
"I think we should stay friends."
She means: I am trying to cut you out of my life gradually.
"It's not you, it's me."
She means: It's you. What the hell do I want with an emotional retard?
"I'm just not ready to make a commitment."
She means: I'm not ready to commit to you, and may never be.
“You’re too nice but not the type I could continue dating.”
She means: You’re NOT exciting enough, daring enough, or enough of a challenge. All too often "nice" equals "boring” and I DON'T like boring, ordinary men.
"I just don't think it's a good time right now."
She means: It'll be a good time when I'm with my next boyfriend.
"I have a lot going on in my life now."
She means: I want to concentrate on other things in my life, like my friends, work, and returning to the SINGLE scene.
"I'll call you soon."
She means: DON’T call me, I'll call you maybe.
By now, you should know that a girl’s words could be… yes… very loaded indeed! Unlike guys, she often uses hints and insinuations to steer you in her direction. Her way isn't necessarily better or worse than yours -- just different. But once you get to know the person well enough, you'll be able to find out exactly what your girl really means, rather than what she says.
Girl: “They are suggesting me to do treatment, dunno should I or not”
Guy: “How much it cost?”
Girl: “additional $268”
Guy: “……”
Girl: “I’ll consider it later, but if I really do treatment, will you sponsor my whole cost?”
Guy: “I thought just now at the counter they quoted $163?”
Girl: “That’s without treatment mah”
Guy: “……”
Girl: “Nevermind, if I really do treatment, I’ll pay the difference myself”
I know it’s not my business, but upon hearing such dialogue, as a girl I naturally feel something… just couldn’t help it… feel so… a bit… eh… pathetic for the girlfriend. I cannot help not to take a glance at the guy’s expression, oh gosh… his face seemed to turn gloomy and so forced!
Just cannot help ponder… if I’m the girl, if I’m really that pathetic girl, how would I react? I deem I would pay the whole cost myself and forget about his initial promise to treat me.
Come on, if he even pause to consider whether to let me do an extra hair service just because it incurs an additional cost, wouldn’t it mean I’m not even worth whatever additional amount quoted? Needless say is merely additional $268! Who do you think we girls doing a nice nice hairdo for who to see and touch? If my boyfriend proves to feel heart pain or need to even consider a bit in this case (if the treat was his initial promise), wouldn’t it reflects his stingy side on me and mean I’m not important at all in his heart? I rather have no boyfriend!
Ladies and gentlemen out there, what’s your view?
