What Went Wrong?...... Part 2

Continuation from Part 1…

Okay, so, what really went wrong here, dudes? Why it isn’t working at times when you made your advances?

The reality is that you may be doing things that make girls cringe or disgusted without even realizing it.

Yes, even super handsome guys can make the same mistake, and I can guarantee you this – The moment when you start to make girl recoils, the immediate thing she wants is wishing you GET LOST from her sight. Unwittingly, you might said or did some nasty acts that could have offended, hurt or frightened her.

So, even if you thought you are already following all the right dating suggestions, there are still a couple of additional things you must remember.

First, we girls can be, well, damn weird. Just when you think you have her figured out, she does the complete opposite of what you were expecting.

Second, we girls have the abundance of being picky. If you do something that she dislikes, she'll move on to the next guy waiting in line to pick her up.

From the time you get her number to the end of the first date and beyond, your behaviour really determines whether you'll still be dating in a week, a month, or a year.

Still don’t get it?

Below, am giving you some little examples, maybe some cringe-inducing habits you should avoid, along with some pertinent counsel to tip you from making the same mistakes and maybe assist you through the pick-up stage and into the first date.

THE PICKUP
First impression counts, thus, the first few minutes of the initial meeting are sure crucial. Performing any one of the actions below may hinder your chances of moving on to the first date.

Checking Out Other Girls
You must be yelling “Fei Hua” (redundant said)… this for sure you have already been warned umpteen times that you should never make this mistake. Oi! Are you sure you are listening? How come most of you guys still act otherwise? Don’t tell us crab that it’s your instinct? You're talking to us, but why are your eyes roaming around? Perhaps so you won't miss out on any other hotties, huh? Or you just know you gotta keep an eye on other options in the room… hmm… maybe “just for that in case of no fish opt for prawn also good” huh?

MY COUNSEL: Girls are hyper-sensitive and an expert in concealing jealousy in this respect. 100% during pick-up moment, a girl usually won’t disclose her revulsion. If you even made that split-seconds roaming and thought she might not notice, you are a damn complete retart. Keep your attention on her the whole time, make her feel she's the hottest thing you've ever encountered.

Arguing With Her
The childish things we say aren’t making sense and you feel imperative to correct us?

MY COUNSEL: No doubt girls like decisive guys with opinions and views, it’s a big turn-off to argue with any girl in the initial conversations. I’m not asking you not to be yourself to not stand your ground, just wanna enlighten you something. What do you think is in a girl’s mind when an argument seemingly starts? Most times, whether it’s her fault or not, and even she may already realise she’s in the wrong, majority mayn’t admit on the spot. She merely wants to see if she’s important or attractive enough to make you give in to her.

Forming Assumptions In Her Speech
You ask us a question and before we even got a chance to answer you, you proceed with some assuming answers.

MY COUNSEL: Oi! We won’t thank you for your multiple choices lor. Are you hoping to get one of your assumptions stroked to prove your smartness? Since you are so smart, why ask us? You might as well question and answer yourself and forget about even approaching any target. Let me guarantee you this: All girls see such as intolerable and disgusted!

Staring At Her Breasts
You are more interested in our breasts than in our face, and you can't seem to take your eyes away from them. The worst thing is that you even think we like having our puppies ogled, which I’m telling you that aren’t very true. Yes, it’s most girls’ discernment to wear in confidence exposing a little cleavage if they have the assets to show, but definitely no girl would feel comfortable having her puppies increasingly gazed at all the time.

MY COUNSEL: Be it theirs real tempting or what, you should focus your attention to maybe her eyes instead! Yes, make consistent eye contact! This will make her feel like she's the only girl in the room. Grab the chance to compliment her eyes, you won’t regret this.

Having Weird Habits
Why are you constantly picking scabs, licking your lips or displaying those other little tics? It just makes you look nervous and unconfident.

MY COUNSEL: If you're really nervous, take a deep breath and slow down your breathing; this should help you focus bah.

Being Badly Groomed
I’ve never come across any girl who can tolerate bad smell. So, you should at least ensure you smell nice. Clear off any inadequate grooming such as bad breath, botching shave job, and wearing sloppy slippers.

MY COUNSEL: Well, you never know when you would meet a girl of your dream. It may even happen when you are on a casual outing with your buddies. Get into the habit of doing an once-over in the mirror for some last minute touchups especially before approaching her.

Assuming That Buying Her A Drink Will Get You Some Action
You believe that spending money on us will provide you with a ticket into our panties?

MY COUNSEL: Oi! Girls don’t give a damn to your free sip k! Approach her with no expectations; she'll sense your casual and easygoing personality, which in turn will help her relax.

Pestering Her Too Much For An Answer
You believe the truth is not spoken and you are too eager to find out the real answer.

MY COUNSEL: When she tells you no or expresses indifference to answer a question, stop ask her. She may simply think it isn’t the right time to share with you so much yet or may simply want to avoid the question or just may want to be left alone at that point in time. Your pressing on will only make her irritated and disgusted.

How to make it through the crucial first phone call and beyond?...

THE FIRST PHONE CALL
Ok, so you finally got her number, now it's time to give her a call. To ensure a positive outcome, here are few things you shouldn't be doing.

Waiting The "Obligatory" 3 Days
Even though you want to phone us the next day, you don't want to seem desperate, so you follow the golden rule (I wonder which idiot set this?!) of waiting 3 days before calling us. This is predictable you thought; we’ll see right through it?

MY COUNSEL: Hello! In my philosophy, this is a darn stupid thing to do! 99% of the girls would only read that you are not serious and she meant nothing to you. Believe me, if she's into you, she'll be happy you contact her in less than 3 hrs! SMS her that very evening or surprise her by calling her the next day.

Calling Too Often
You call us more than once a day and leave a slew of messages, hoping that maybe we'll answer one of your calls. Contrary to my earlier point, you shouldn’t test so much water!

MY COUNSEL: Call only once a day and a maximum of two times before she calls you back. If she hasn't returned your call after you've called her twice, you can move on to other prospects.

Eating Like A Pig
If you're hungry, eat before or after you speak to us on the phone for the first time. Whether it's an apple or a popcorn, we won't enjoy hearing crunching and slurping sounds during your conversation.

MY COUNSEL: Setting aside some time to call her when you aren't rushed will give her the impression that the moment is specifically for her.

Being Distracted
You gotta give us your undivided attention. Please avoid surfing the Net, watching TV or playing game while you're chatting.

MY COUNSEL: If you are the type of person who gets easily distracted, allot a time limit for the phone call. Tell yourself (and only yourself) that you'll talk only for 15 minutes so that you will be able to give her your full attention.

Being A Conversation Hog
Talking too much about yourself without asking about ours could make you look self-centered, even if you're only nervous.

MY COUNSEL: To keep the conversation balanced, ask her the same questions she is asking you. Topics of discussion can include career, likes, dislikes, and family. Avoid touchy subjects like politics and religion until you know her better.

Forgetting Details About Your First Encounter
Noise, alcoholic beverages and other distractions could all be a hindrance when it's time to recall her name and the details of her childhood.

MY COUNSEL: When you first meet her, repeat her name after she introduces herself; this will help you remember it. Make a mental note of some of the information she tells you, like what she does for a living or things you have in common. Write it down when you get home if you need to. Remembering some of the major elements of her life will sure impress her and help you to secure that first date.

WHAT A GIRL WANTS
Girls always notice the little details, so a good first impression is paramount to getting her phone number. Being considerate, taking the time to look and smell your best, and maintaining your positive behaviour will lead you on the path to relationship success.

What Went Wrong?...... Part 1

If you are a guy who’s interested in picking up girls, have you ever encounter times whereby for some reasons or what, your pickup techniques just not working?


Recalling all the moves from having approached that girl till seeing her walked out of your sight, you just thought you did look and speak your best mah. In fact, with your charming appearance, how can girls not fall love at first sight?


You simply believe you have what it takes to get any babe's phone number (it’s whether you want to or not mah)... hmmm… but when it comes to times when you want to, how come it isn’t working? Just what went wrong manz?

Okay think I’ll only blog about this topic if there are interested readers of course. So for those who wanna hear the reasons from a girl’s point of view, just leave me your comments here and we shall discuss it out in my next entry.

For those who think you are already a pro and it’s a redundant knowledge, you can skip any related entry k;)

Incredible Poet

Toiyi… or whoever you are… mi respect u manz! Who else can be so interesting to think of such incredible poem. Wahaha…



For those who dunno mandarin, below is the translation:

Love is like SHIT…
When it comes, it’s just unstoppable
Love is like SHIT…
Once flushed off, it won’t return
Love is like SHIT…
Everytime it looks the same, yet not the same
Love is like SHIT…
After a long struggle, the outcome is mere a FART…

This Happens Each Morning...

Deem this really reveals difference between man and woman bah... (at least I do agree it's so true on the woman... hahaha)

Wonder What She Really Means?

It's infuriating but true: we girls don't always speak what we mean.

Well, containing double meaning in our words is just so natural you see, it's not something say can change means can. It's an habit, or rather a disease, a habitual disease in us already. So, don’t expect your girl to change, she will likely end up hinting you again. Yeah, girls are just experts in playing mind games.

Too bad, these games just don’t come with instruction manuals, especially of trying to read through her queries and comments, which often turn out opposite of what she said. Rings any bell there?

Ok guys, see if some of my below tip-offs can help eradicate your undue headaches a bit.. hahaha..

WHEN TRYING TO PICK HER UP…

"I’m attached liao."
She means: I may or may not attached now, but you DON’T stand a chance.

"I don't dance lor."
She means: NOT WITH YOU lor, but I do dance with my female friends.

"I don't drink."
She means: I'll drink ONLY WHEN a guy I like offers me.

"Oops I just lost my mobile phone, I don't have any number.”
She means: I have two lines and carry a mobile phone with two SIM cards in my handbag, but you CAN’T have either number.

"I also love clubbing, where's your favourite night spots?"
She means: I want to know more about you, so tell me...

If you hear negative responses, it doesn't necessarily mean that she's not interested, could just means that she's either giving you the cold shoulder out of reflex (sometime normal mah), or she's just not interested in being picked up at that moment YET. Some of us girls need warm up time too. Don't take negativity personally; it could just mean that she's out with her friends and wants to focus just on that.

But if you do score a first date, here are some things you may hear:

FIRST DATES...

"How do I look?"
She means: Are you good with compliments?

"What was your last girlfriend like?"
She means: How do I compare to your last girlfriend?

"What do you look for in a girl?"
She means: I’m interested to carry on from here. Do I fit the mould.

"I don't drink."
She means: I don't want to lose my guard and do something stupid on the first date.

“Oh I just notice your double eyelids are so nice so charming, so wasted!”
She means: Remove that glasses, pls. Go lasik or whatever. I prefer dating guy without glasses.

AFTER THE DATE…

What does she mean when she says, "my roommate is sleeping."? Ok read on to find out...

"I don't want to ruin our friendship."
She means: I am NOT attracted to you, or I DON'T feel enough chemistry to continue date you -- but I do like you as friend.

"I'm just so busy with work right now."
She means: I am NOT interested in fitting you into my schedule.

"I love watching movies... I love playing pool... I love watching soccer."
She means: I may or may not love doing the above, but I would love to do these things with you.

“I think of you as a brother.”
She means: I’m NOT attracted to you.

"My roommate is sleeping."
She means: You're NOT going to see me naked.

“Why don’t you try to kiss me like this?”
She means: I DON'T like the way you do it.

INTO THE RELATIONSHIP…

"How do I look?"
She means: Am I as pretty as when we met?

“How do I look in this new dress?”
She means: Since I already bought this dress, say something reassuring pls... like: “You look SOooo slim/beautiful/hot/wonderful in it!

“Did you notice that sexy girl that just walked in?”
She means: You had BETTER NOT let me catch you eye-rolling infront of me!

"Isn't that girl gorgeous?"
She means: Is she prettier than me?

"Do you really want to go to that restaurant/movie/dinner party?"
She means: I really DON’T want to go.

"I feel like our relationship is stuck in a routine right now."
She means: I’m starting to feel it so boring now. Can’t you be more romantic and spontaneous, and surprise me more?

"How many kids do you want"... or... "Where would you honeymoon with your wife?"
She means: Do you see me in your future?

"A man was flirting with me all night.”
She means: Does it make you jealous?

"I'm not angry."
She means: I AM pissed.

"Nothing is wrong."
She means: Nothing is right.

“Of course you can go dear. I trust you and I don’t mind”
She means: "Only retards don’t mind lor. Not only can I NOT believe that you will behave yourself with those womanizing friends, but I abhor when you always go clubbing with them! If you really cared about me, you wouldn't even think about going without me!"

"If you weren't with me, which of my friends would you go for?"
She means: "Please tell me that you DON'T think my friend Britney is hotter than me."

"Tell me the truth: have I gained weight?"
She means: I want to hear something reassuring. Tell me I still can eat those Cadbury.

"I promise I won't be angry, just tell me the truth PLS."
She means: This promise expires at the ending of your reply. I promise I'll sure give you a hard time if it's NOT what I wanna hear. Ok you can say it now.

"My friend thought what you did was stupid."
She means: I thought what you did was damn stupid.

“That guy's hair is so cool."
She means: I DON’T like yours.

"That guy is so my type."
She means: I want you to dress like him and cut your hair like him.

“Your love handles are so cute.”
She means: Get rid of them, please.

“I like your friends, but…”
She means: I DON’T like your friends.

“You don't communicate enough.”
She means: I need you to constantly tell me how do you feel about me and our relationship.

BREAKING UP…

"I think we should stay friends."
She means: I am trying to cut you out of my life gradually.

"It's not you, it's me."
She means: It's you. What the hell do I want with an emotional retard?

"I'm just not ready to make a commitment."
She means: I'm not ready to commit to you, and may never be.

“You’re too nice but not the type I could continue dating.”
She means: You’re NOT exciting enough, daring enough, or enough of a challenge. All too often "nice" equals "boring” and I DON'T like boring, ordinary men.

"I just don't think it's a good time right now."
She means: It'll be a good time when I'm with my next boyfriend.

"I have a lot going on in my life now."
She means: I want to concentrate on other things in my life, like my friends, work, and returning to the SINGLE scene.

"I'll call you soon."
She means: DON’T call me, I'll call you maybe.

By now, you should know that a girl’s words could be… yes… very loaded indeed! Unlike guys, she often uses hints and insinuations to steer you in her direction. Her way isn't necessarily better or worse than yours -- just different. But once you get to know the person well enough, you'll be able to find out exactly what your girl really means, rather than what she says.

Guys or girls, I’d love to hear your opinions on this ;p

So Hilarious lor

Yesterday I witnessed something damn hilarious in the north-bound mrt.

Was sitting and reading a magazine when something seemed to roll passing my eyes fast. Vividly like a round thing. Yes, like a ball I thought. But it was something green. Someone kicking ball in the train?

Curiosity aroused me to look up and glance. Then I saw a middle-aged man running in the same direction of where that green thing went passed. Then a minute later, he was seen carrying a big WATERMELON and walked passed me again.

By then, everyone’s eyes were at that guy. Slowly he moved towards where his female partner (wife maybe) was standing. She looked angry and embarrassed and refused to look or talk to him. He had no idea what wrong he done… merely catching his watermelon wrong meh?

Some peoples were already started giggling. It may not seem funny to read this here but if you were personally at the scene, I bet you wouldn’t control too. It was so damn hilarious I tell u. I tried very hard not to laugh but lost my control.

Hmmm… what a waste I failed to capture this on video or snap any pic. Hee… so bad of me to think this way. But it’s really damn funny even now as I think of it… hahaha…

Who's In Charge?

A woman is cooking instant noodles for her husband, when he bursts into the kitchen.


“Careful,” he says, “Don’t put so little water! U’re putting too much MSG! Stir them NOW! We need MORE water. They’re going to dry up! CAREFUL! Why U always NEVER listen to me when u’re cooking?! Stir them! HURRY UP! Don’t forget to add in an egg. Crack the shell first! THE SHELL!”


The wife stares at him.


“WTF! U think I dunno how to cook a packet of Maggi mee, huh?”


The husband calmly replies, “I just wanted to show you what it feels like when I’m driving.”

... mmmmummy it's over!... Wahahaha...

Pathetic Girlfriend...

Went salon for a hairdo yesterday. Overheard a conversation between a couple seated next to me. I certainly don’t have the habit of eavesdropping, but the salon’s seat arrangement is quite close together so overhearing other’s conversation is just so inescapable.

Girl: “They are suggesting me to do treatment, dunno should I or not”

Guy: “How much it cost?”

Girl: “additional $268”

Guy: “……”

Girl: “I’ll consider it later, but if I really do treatment, will you sponsor my whole cost?”

Guy: “I thought just now at the counter they quoted $163?”

Girl: “That’s without treatment mah”

Guy: “……”

Girl: “Nevermind, if I really do treatment, I’ll pay the difference myself”

I know it’s not my business, but upon hearing such dialogue, as a girl I naturally feel something… just couldn’t help it… feel so… a bit… eh… pathetic for the girlfriend. I cannot help not to take a glance at the guy’s expression, oh gosh… his face seemed to turn gloomy and so forced!

Just cannot help ponder… if I’m the girl, if I’m really that pathetic girl, how would I react? I deem I would pay the whole cost myself and forget about his initial promise to treat me.

Come on, if he even pause to consider whether to let me do an extra hair service just because it incurs an additional cost, wouldn’t it mean I’m not even worth whatever additional amount quoted? Needless say is merely additional $268! Who do you think we girls doing a nice nice hairdo for who to see and touch? If my boyfriend proves to feel heart pain or need to even consider a bit in this case (if the treat was his initial promise), wouldn’t it reflects his stingy side on me and mean I’m not important at all in his heart? I rather have no boyfriend!

Ladies and gentlemen out there, what’s your view?

2008 Autumn Vacation In Taiwan

This is the smallest crab I seen, snapped in an oyster nurturing sea in Kaohsiung. So cute hoh… Mmmm... baby baby baby... wait till u grow bigger and I wanna EAT u up... heeez... yum yummy;p

UPDATE: Had previously uploaded a little video capturing the scene of the long ice-cream I sampled in Taiwan. But I've since removed it due to a nasty comment.

Little Tips To Make Her Miss You :)

Do you know that being too nice to a girl actually does not guarantee of making her miss you?


Some guys confusingly believe girls are often drawn toward guys who are aggressive when it comes to putting their cards in.


Wooooo… wrong dude!, washing the cards with same tactic & distributing them in same direction does not guarantee you always get the winning card.


It may seem true that most girls seemingly choose to end up with the bad guy type. But mixing with that “bad” self, you gotta be one who is able to control your emotions, you ought to develop a sense of knowing when and how to be aggressive and learn when to ease off the air and cruise in for the catch. Just as there is a fine line between eager and desperate, ditto obsessive and aggressive.


Still don’t get me?



Unquestionably understand that in the early stages of dating, girls usually provide guys with the opportunity to make a great impression – you ought to take advantage of this time frame.


Ok let me offer you a trick here - keep her interested enough to see that you are not in desperate need of her attention.



Yes! That’s how you actually would make a girl miss you.


No doubt the alluring effect of the honeymoon stage often shared between couples are intoxicating, but offering a girl every bits and pieces of you will potentially extinguish her interest in a shorter period of time than if she were fed breadcrumbs along the way. Believe me or not, it’s true k!



Tactfully limiting your availability at the onset is gonna raise your value in her eyes, as it indicates that you have a sense of independence. The elements of surprise and mystery work well in keeping her intrigued.


Making her seem like an enhancement to your life by “taking time out of your busy schedule” to spend with her will sure make her feel special.


So trust me. Slow your tempo a bit down in-between stages. Take the reigns and allow a pace to emerge that will always have her coming back for more ;)