What Went Wrong?...... Part 2

Continuation from Part 1…

Okay, so, what really went wrong here, dudes? Why it isn’t working at times when you made your advances?

The reality is that you may be doing things that make girls cringe or disgusted without even realizing it.

Yes, even super handsome guys can make the same mistake, and I can guarantee you this – The moment when you start to make girl recoils, the immediate thing she wants is wishing you GET LOST from her sight. Unwittingly, you might said or did some nasty acts that could have offended, hurt or frightened her.

So, even if you thought you are already following all the right dating suggestions, there are still a couple of additional things you must remember.

First, we girls can be, well, damn weird. Just when you think you have her figured out, she does the complete opposite of what you were expecting.

Second, we girls have the abundance of being picky. If you do something that she dislikes, she'll move on to the next guy waiting in line to pick her up.

From the time you get her number to the end of the first date and beyond, your behaviour really determines whether you'll still be dating in a week, a month, or a year.

Still don’t get it?

Below, am giving you some little examples, maybe some cringe-inducing habits you should avoid, along with some pertinent counsel to tip you from making the same mistakes and maybe assist you through the pick-up stage and into the first date.

THE PICKUP
First impression counts, thus, the first few minutes of the initial meeting are sure crucial. Performing any one of the actions below may hinder your chances of moving on to the first date.

Checking Out Other Girls
You must be yelling “Fei Hua” (redundant said)… this for sure you have already been warned umpteen times that you should never make this mistake. Oi! Are you sure you are listening? How come most of you guys still act otherwise? Don’t tell us crab that it’s your instinct? You're talking to us, but why are your eyes roaming around? Perhaps so you won't miss out on any other hotties, huh? Or you just know you gotta keep an eye on other options in the room… hmm… maybe “just for that in case of no fish opt for prawn also good” huh?

MY COUNSEL: Girls are hyper-sensitive and an expert in concealing jealousy in this respect. 100% during pick-up moment, a girl usually won’t disclose her revulsion. If you even made that split-seconds roaming and thought she might not notice, you are a damn complete retart. Keep your attention on her the whole time, make her feel she's the hottest thing you've ever encountered.

Arguing With Her
The childish things we say aren’t making sense and you feel imperative to correct us?

MY COUNSEL: No doubt girls like decisive guys with opinions and views, it’s a big turn-off to argue with any girl in the initial conversations. I’m not asking you not to be yourself to not stand your ground, just wanna enlighten you something. What do you think is in a girl’s mind when an argument seemingly starts? Most times, whether it’s her fault or not, and even she may already realise she’s in the wrong, majority mayn’t admit on the spot. She merely wants to see if she’s important or attractive enough to make you give in to her.

Forming Assumptions In Her Speech
You ask us a question and before we even got a chance to answer you, you proceed with some assuming answers.

MY COUNSEL: Oi! We won’t thank you for your multiple choices lor. Are you hoping to get one of your assumptions stroked to prove your smartness? Since you are so smart, why ask us? You might as well question and answer yourself and forget about even approaching any target. Let me guarantee you this: All girls see such as intolerable and disgusted!

Staring At Her Breasts
You are more interested in our breasts than in our face, and you can't seem to take your eyes away from them. The worst thing is that you even think we like having our puppies ogled, which I’m telling you that aren’t very true. Yes, it’s most girls’ discernment to wear in confidence exposing a little cleavage if they have the assets to show, but definitely no girl would feel comfortable having her puppies increasingly gazed at all the time.

MY COUNSEL: Be it theirs real tempting or what, you should focus your attention to maybe her eyes instead! Yes, make consistent eye contact! This will make her feel like she's the only girl in the room. Grab the chance to compliment her eyes, you won’t regret this.

Having Weird Habits
Why are you constantly picking scabs, licking your lips or displaying those other little tics? It just makes you look nervous and unconfident.

MY COUNSEL: If you're really nervous, take a deep breath and slow down your breathing; this should help you focus bah.

Being Badly Groomed
I’ve never come across any girl who can tolerate bad smell. So, you should at least ensure you smell nice. Clear off any inadequate grooming such as bad breath, botching shave job, and wearing sloppy slippers.

MY COUNSEL: Well, you never know when you would meet a girl of your dream. It may even happen when you are on a casual outing with your buddies. Get into the habit of doing an once-over in the mirror for some last minute touchups especially before approaching her.

Assuming That Buying Her A Drink Will Get You Some Action
You believe that spending money on us will provide you with a ticket into our panties?

MY COUNSEL: Oi! Girls don’t give a damn to your free sip k! Approach her with no expectations; she'll sense your casual and easygoing personality, which in turn will help her relax.

Pestering Her Too Much For An Answer
You believe the truth is not spoken and you are too eager to find out the real answer.

MY COUNSEL: When she tells you no or expresses indifference to answer a question, stop ask her. She may simply think it isn’t the right time to share with you so much yet or may simply want to avoid the question or just may want to be left alone at that point in time. Your pressing on will only make her irritated and disgusted.

How to make it through the crucial first phone call and beyond?...

THE FIRST PHONE CALL
Ok, so you finally got her number, now it's time to give her a call. To ensure a positive outcome, here are few things you shouldn't be doing.

Waiting The "Obligatory" 3 Days
Even though you want to phone us the next day, you don't want to seem desperate, so you follow the golden rule (I wonder which idiot set this?!) of waiting 3 days before calling us. This is predictable you thought; we’ll see right through it?

MY COUNSEL: Hello! In my philosophy, this is a darn stupid thing to do! 99% of the girls would only read that you are not serious and she meant nothing to you. Believe me, if she's into you, she'll be happy you contact her in less than 3 hrs! SMS her that very evening or surprise her by calling her the next day.

Calling Too Often
You call us more than once a day and leave a slew of messages, hoping that maybe we'll answer one of your calls. Contrary to my earlier point, you shouldn’t test so much water!

MY COUNSEL: Call only once a day and a maximum of two times before she calls you back. If she hasn't returned your call after you've called her twice, you can move on to other prospects.

Eating Like A Pig
If you're hungry, eat before or after you speak to us on the phone for the first time. Whether it's an apple or a popcorn, we won't enjoy hearing crunching and slurping sounds during your conversation.

MY COUNSEL: Setting aside some time to call her when you aren't rushed will give her the impression that the moment is specifically for her.

Being Distracted
You gotta give us your undivided attention. Please avoid surfing the Net, watching TV or playing game while you're chatting.

MY COUNSEL: If you are the type of person who gets easily distracted, allot a time limit for the phone call. Tell yourself (and only yourself) that you'll talk only for 15 minutes so that you will be able to give her your full attention.

Being A Conversation Hog
Talking too much about yourself without asking about ours could make you look self-centered, even if you're only nervous.

MY COUNSEL: To keep the conversation balanced, ask her the same questions she is asking you. Topics of discussion can include career, likes, dislikes, and family. Avoid touchy subjects like politics and religion until you know her better.

Forgetting Details About Your First Encounter
Noise, alcoholic beverages and other distractions could all be a hindrance when it's time to recall her name and the details of her childhood.

MY COUNSEL: When you first meet her, repeat her name after she introduces herself; this will help you remember it. Make a mental note of some of the information she tells you, like what she does for a living or things you have in common. Write it down when you get home if you need to. Remembering some of the major elements of her life will sure impress her and help you to secure that first date.

WHAT A GIRL WANTS
Girls always notice the little details, so a good first impression is paramount to getting her phone number. Being considerate, taking the time to look and smell your best, and maintaining your positive behaviour will lead you on the path to relationship success.